The Journal
“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.”
— 1 PETER 5:8
Leading a family spiritually isn’t something I arrived knowing how to do. This is me figuring it out as a dad, out loud, one day at a time.
No long essays here. Just posts, short reflections, a passage worth sitting with, a saint’s words, a question worth asking yourself. Come back often, it’s meant to build over time.
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What I Keep Holding Back
Continue reading →: What I Keep Holding BackI started reading Karol Wojtyla’s Love and Responsibility this week, mostly because I wanted language for something I already suspected about my own marriage. He calls it the sincere gift of self, the idea that love only becomes real when a person stops being used and starts being given. Not given partly. Given. That phrase…
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A House That Stands
Continue reading →: A House That StandsTomorrow night the streets fill up with costumes. Tonight, a story about a man who lost everything and…
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Not Just Between Us
Continue reading →: Not Just Between UsFor a long time I thought of marriage as basically a serious promise between two people. A really…
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The Third Strand
Continue reading →: The Third StrandThis week I’m turning to marriage, and I want to start somewhere practical instead of somewhere lofty. For…
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What My House Is For
Continue reading →: What My House Is ForSt. John Chrysostom, writing in the fourth century about how a husband and wife should run their home,…
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Before Anyone Else Answers
Continue reading →: Before Anyone Else AnswersThere’s a moment near the end of Joshua where the whole story turns personal. Joshua has led the…
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Not Just a Day Off
Continue reading →: Not Just a Day OffI used to treat Sunday like a slower version of every other day. Sleep in a little, maybe…
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The One Thing I Actually Want
Continue reading →: The One Thing I Actually WantThis week I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to actually lead my family spiritually. Saying…
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A Question I’m Hoping They Ask
Continue reading →: A Question I’m Hoping They AskI’ve been thinking about Joshua 4 this week, the twelve stones pulled up from the middle of the…
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Guarding My Home Starts With My Heart
Continue reading →: Guarding My Home Starts With My HeartIf a man’s heart is right with God, how does he actually protect his family spiritually? I think…
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I Thought I Could Hand This Off
Continue reading →: I Thought I Could Hand This OffFor a while, I thought my job when it came to my kids’ faith was mostly logistics. Get…
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Whoever Brings It Up First
Continue reading →: Whoever Brings It Up FirstFor a long time, grace before dinner at our house meant waiting to see who would say something…
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The Arms I Remember
Continue reading →: The Arms I RememberI don’t remember much about my father’s voice from when I was small, but I remember his arms.…
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Named Before I Earned It
Continue reading →: Named Before I Earned ItI’ve been sitting with something John writes, almost in passing. See what kind of love the Father has…
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Not Too Familiar to Say
Continue reading →: Not Too Familiar to SayI grew up calling God things like Lord, and God, and Almighty. True words, good words. But somewhere…
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Still a Long Way Off
Continue reading →: Still a Long Way OffThere’s a detail in the story of the prodigal son I didn’t notice for years. The father doesn’t…
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A Father in the Shadows
Continue reading →: A Father in the ShadowsI started reading Pope Francis’s letter on St. Joseph this week, the one called Patris Corde, “With a…
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I Had It Backwards
Continue reading →: I Had It BackwardsFor a long time I assumed I already knew what God the Father was like, because I thought…
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The Father I Keep Borrowing From
Continue reading →: The Father I Keep Borrowing FromI’ve been sitting with something small this week, and it won’t let me go. Everything I think I…
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Still Looking Up
Continue reading →: Still Looking UpFour weeks ago I started writing about building a foundation, Scripture, the sacraments, prayer, the saints, like it…
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One Step Enough
Continue reading →: One Step EnoughI keep coming back to John Henry Newman today. Today is actually his feast day, the anniversary of…
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Not Instead of Him
Continue reading →: Not Instead of HimFor a long time I thought asking a saint to pray for me was basically going around God.…
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A Weapon I Almost Forgot I Had
Continue reading →: A Weapon I Almost Forgot I HadToday is the feast of Our Lady of the Rosary, and I almost let it pass without noticing.…
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Late, But Not Too Late
Continue reading →: Late, But Not Too LateI have been circling one line from Augustine’s Confessions for a few days now. Late have I loved…
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A Finish I Haven’t Earned Yet
Continue reading →: A Finish I Haven’t Earned YetPaul wrote those words from a prison cell, near the end, when he knew there wasn’t much time…
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Someone Already Walked This Road
Continue reading →: Someone Already Walked This RoadThis month I’ve been trying to build something, Scripture as the ground, the sacraments, and learning to actually…
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Quiet Enough To Hear Anything
Continue reading →: Quiet Enough To Hear AnythingThis week I’ve been trying to actually build a prayer life, not just say prayers. I got up…
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The Prayer I Didn’t Have To Start
Continue reading →: The Prayer I Didn’t Have To StartThis week I’ve been trying to actually build a prayer life, not just hope one shows up on…
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I Thought I Had to Say It Right
Continue reading →: I Thought I Had to Say It RightI used to think a good prayer needed to sound a certain way. I would catch myself rehearsing…
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Before the Day Gets Ahold of Me
Continue reading →: Before the Day Gets Ahold of MeI used to think a real prayer life would just happen on its own, that if I loved…
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Not Something You Have to Perform
Continue reading →: Not Something You Have to PerformI’ve spent a lot of my life thinking prayer had to sound like something. Real sentences, the right…